This is how we enjoy our family with a beautiful boy with autism.
Everyone always says: “That must be hard for you…”
And it’s kindly meant. But it’s not hard at all.
And that is exactly why this post is also about entrepreneurship.
It comes down to two things:
First, he gets to be who he is. He doesn’t have a problem, we have a problem. And that’s exactly the same with entrepreneurs. They are just who they want to be. Not caring about the rest and going all in on what they believe is right.
Second, I don’t worry about things I cannot influence. I focus on the things I can control. And I solve those. That’s exactly the entrepreneurial mindset. You solve everything within your power. What lies outside of that, you don’t stress about.
I see so many people blaming everything outside themselves for what goes wrong. But things go wrong for everyone. It’s about how you deal with what you can influence.
Sometimes it’s challenging, as you can see here. He’s happy, but he lies on the ground a lot, runs around and makes a lot of noise. People look. My wife feels embarrassed sometimes. I don’t. I don’t care. Because he gets to be who he is.
And my mother will probably remember, as a child I was even more extreme. I was always lying on the ground too, completely in my own world. And it turned out just fine.
What is a real concern is that we cannot take our eyes off him for even a second, because he will run off.
Then there’s the dynamic with his two-year-old sister, who already speaks two languages and understands everything we’re doing. To be fair, Thor understands it too, he just doesn’t communicate it.
But honestly, I’m happy that Ayla is developing so quickly. It gives us confidence that Thor will always have someone there for him.
Although I do think Ayla will leave at 18, and Thor might stay with us his whole life…
We’ll see ☺️
I was raised very strict and traditional. Study, build a career and create a standard version of success.
My kids don’t have to follow that path. That might be a risk, maybe I’ll spoil them. I’ll try not to. But only focusing on hard work and constant pressure to succeed is not something I want for them.
Even though I’m grateful for how my life turned out, I do live a stressful and driven life. Maybe that’s just who I am.
For my kids, I want to give them love and calmness. And yes, that requires money, and that’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make. In life, something or someone always has to sacrifice.
Who else feels the same about raising their kids? I’m really curious.
Just opening up here, because I felt like sharing it 🙏🏻
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